As uncomfortable as it can be, it is critical that men hear from women about their experiences of misogyny, the hatred of women.
Doing so quickly raises a range of challenging questions: Perhaps the most interesting is not why certain, individual men hate women but whether misogyny is actually central to a male-dominated society? That is, even for that majority of men who truly love women, what is it about our lives and the ways we were raised to be men, that show a profound distrust, suspicion, and, yes, even hatred, for the things we associate with femininity? Or does this disguise other, more troubling feelings, about our lives as men and our relationships with women? And what about a new, cooked-up term “misandry” (a supposed hatred of men) that gets circulated by anti-feminist men’s rights groups?
In March, I had the pleasure of taking part in the annual Women of the World Festival at London’s Southbank Centre. One event was an hour-long, on-stage discussion with the incredible Jude Kelly. Jude is a British director and producer and currently the artistic director of the Southbank Centre, her country’s largest cultural institution.
Here’s the video of our discussion: