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The Afghan Vampires Book Club: A story of love & war and a serious look at the impact of war on us all

We’re very pleased that our new novel, The Afghan Vampires Book Club, has been garnering some enthusiastic responses. Jane Fonda calls it, “A riveting story of love and war… A marriage of American Sniper and Heart of Darkness. I read it straight through in one sitting.” Scotland’s “The Herald” writes:  “Partly a satirical broadside against the insanity Read More …

Galaxy Guardians guard harmful ideals of manhood

Manisha Aggarwal-Schifellite is my research associate. You can find her on Twitter @manishaclaire The new Marvel film Guardians of the Galaxy has been a “surprise” hit at the box office, earning over $100 million in North America since its release last week. On the surface, GOTG showcases a new kind of superhero in Peter Quill, Read More …

Appalling Words the World is Saying About Our Daughters

(This post also appears at Huff Post. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/michael-kaufman-phd/appalling-words-the-world_b_4132788.html ) An astonishing new UN Women ad campaign is showing what the world is saying about our daughters and the women in our lives. Using Google’s autocomplete function with various phrases (women shouldn’t, women need to, women cannot, and women should) the creator of the ad, Christopher Hunt, Read More …

Happy Pride Day to One and All!

It’s been many years since the US Supreme Court acted like true purveyors of justice.  When a majority of justices struck down the anti-gay Defence of Marriage Act and refused to overturn a California court decision (and thus paved the way for the legalization of same-sex marriage), it was certainly a big victory for the Read More …

In Australia on the Path to Greatness

Even though I am only flying over the outback on the brief flight from Alice Springs to Uluru, forbidding is the word that springs to mind. The soil and rocks are orange and rusty-red although there is a surprising amount of a pale greyish green where stubborn desert plants and wispy trees are growing. River Read More …

The Real Republican Strategy: Crazy Like Foxes?

I’m pleased to publish this chilling guest blog by my friend and colleague Harry Brod. The Republican National Committee’s post-mortem report looking back at their electoral defeat argues that the “federal wing” of the party needs overhaul and repair. But this verdict from the national party establishment is getting pushback from local level activists, especially Read More …

Do Men Hate Women? (Talking About Misogyny)

As uncomfortable as it can be, it is critical that men hear from women about their experiences of misogyny, the hatred of women. Doing so quickly raises a range of challenging questions: Perhaps the most interesting is not why certain, individual men hate women but whether misogyny is actually central to a male-dominated society? That Read More …

Thousands Gathering at United Nations With One Message: End Violence Against Women & Girls!

Thousands of ambassadors, cabinet ministers, government officials and members of non-governmental organizations gather for the next two weeks at the United Nations for the annual meetings of the Commission on the Status of Women. The focus this year is the elimination and prevention of all forms of violence against women and girls. I’m honoured to Read More …

Feminism: Helping Men Be Free

The New York Times asked several feminists to share their thoughts on the future of feminism on the fiftieth anniversary of the publication of Betty Friedan’s landmark book, The Feminine Mystique. They also asked  Michael Kimmel and me to add our own thoughts. The collection of short articles was published on February 18 as “Feminism’s Read More …

Eight Steps to Presidential Greatness

I was relieved that Romney and the Republicans lost, although not particularly excited about the policies or priorities of Obama and the Democrats. If Obama would like to cast himself into the history books as a great president, here are eight things he could do. 1. Clearly state that climate change is the planet’s number Read More …

Republican Party Rape Advisory Chart

Thanks to blogger Connecticutie who created the idea and framework and  blogger Brainwrap (both at dailykos.com) who added the quotes. The reality that people with such views have so much political power in the United States is truly scary.

What is Healthy Masculinity?

Along with twelve other men I greatly admire, I was invited to contribute a small article to the Fall 2012 edition of Voice Male Magazine. (I encourage you to visit http://voicemalemagazine.org/ where you can download each issue — or, even better, please support this important voice for male-positive, pro-feminist, and open-minded writers by subscribing for Read More …

Rape & Women’s Voice

From time to time, I invite colleagues to write a guest blog. My friend, colleague, and sometimes co-author Michael Kimmel is a pioneer in exploring men and masculinities in both his scholarly and more popular work. He lives in New York City. You have to pinch yourself sometimes to remind yourself that it’s 2012 and Read More …

Saudi Arabia: How About a Segregated City for Men?

Saudi Arabia plans to build four women-only industrial cities. Women in Saudi Arabia, as everywhere else, increasingly demand greater financial independence, political, religious, and social equality, and unimpeded entrance to a full range of jobs. But what’s one to do in a country where the ultra-conservative Wahabi brand of Islam rules the roost? Where women’s Read More …

Olympic Dreams, Olympic Myths

The London Games are on! And faster than Usain Bolt, out sprint many Olympic myths. The problem with myths is they can be dangerous. Here’s what you need to know. Myth 1: The Modern Olympics are the Continuation of the Ancient Olympics Starting in 1896, those who created the “modern Olympics” traced their origins to Read More …

LOCKED-OUT SYNDROME STRIKES WOMEN & MEN!

Locked-in syndrome is a nightmarish condition where you are awake but you have no voluntary control over your muscles. You are totally conscious but also completely paralyzed, unable to move or communicate in any way except, in some cases, by blinking your eyes.  Fortunately, locked-in syndrome is extremely rare. My research has uncovered a far-more Read More …

Men for Women’s Choice

Like an ever-growing number of men around the world, we think that women should control their own bodies. We hold these truths as deep moral beliefs. All humans should have the right to autonomy and bodily integrity. For women and men, this often means the same thing, but for women it has an additional meaning: Read More …

Killing in the Name of Honor

On Sunday, an Afghani man, woman, and their son, who since 2007 have been permanent residents of Canada, were convicted of murdering the family’s three daughters and the man’s first wife. The women’s “crime”: the teenaged girls had brought supposed “dishonor” to their family by the way they dressed and the boys they liked. (See Read More …

Men and the Search for Love

What do Marilyn Monroe, love, a male high school teacher, and, well, you, have in common? The answer: more than you might imagine. And although that answer will be different if you are a man or a woman, and depending on whether you’re attracted to women or men, it has had a riveting presence in Read More …

The 0-0-0 Plan for Ending Sexual Harassment!

You might be surprised, but I’ve been inspired by Republican presidential candidate Herman Cain. Surprised because, after all, his combination of right wing politics, stubborn anti-intellectualism, and an apparently superficial relationship with economic reality might lead you to think he’s not my cup of tea. But, I’ve been inspired by his ability to reduce complex Read More …

The Guy’s Guide To Feminism

What do the Pope, Republican Rick Perry, and Attila the Hun have in common?   It appears they’ve all written rave reviews for my new book The Guy’s Guide to Feminism Co-written with Michael Kimmel, it’ll be in bookstores across Canada and the US by early November. It’s an A-Z book, at times serious but full of Read More …

Soften Up, Men!

Those who’d like to redefine manhood and engage men and boys in promoting gender equality have a very basic challenge. Ideas about gender are not simply disembodied thoughts or ideas that float around in our heads. If that were the case, then change would be simple: let guys know how our current gender ideals hurt Read More …

The Two September 11s

Ten years ago the monsters who’d been nurtured by the United States in its covert war against the Soviet occupation of Afghanistan struck back with horrific vengeance against the American people. This is not to blame the US for the barbarous attack on the World Trade Center and the cold-blooded murder of so many people Read More …

Summer Sports: Women Rock, Fathers Weep

1. FIFA WOMEN’S WORLD CUP Every four years, my neighbourhood in downtown Toronto goes crazy. With people living around here from all over the world, a United Nation’s worth of flags hang from front porches and apartment balconies or flap from car windows. Streets regularly clog with honking cars of celebrating men and women or Read More …

9 Steps to a REAL Father’s Day

In countries around the world, we’re witnessing one of the greatest and swiftest changes in human history: in the course of a couple of generations we are redefining what it means to be a father. In a growing number of countries, young fathers not only expect to, but want to, play a central role in Read More …

An Open Letter from God to Sarah Palin

Dear Sarah, Sorry it took me so long to get back to you.  There was the busy schedule of high school, college and professional football and then basketball games: all those teams praying that I choose them to win takes an enormous amount of research time and personal energy.  (A few months ago, a Viking’s Read More …

The Top Ten List You Wouldn’t Want to Be On

Amnesty International has released one of its human rights lists.  On it are China, Iran, North Korea, Yemen, Saudi Arabia, Libya, Syria, Bangladesh, and Somalia.   All are known for deep and ongoing abuses of human rights. When it comes to human rights, it’s not a list that any right-thinking person (or country) would want to Read More …

Nuclear Manhood

The catastrophe at the Fukushima nuclear plant in Japan speaks of many things.   It speaks of corporate greed – its owner has been convicted of falsifying safety data in a singular pursuit of enriching itself even if its workers and perhaps countless others might die.  It speaks of generations of Japanese governments that have pumped Read More …

Signs of Hope in Istanbul

As I was just in Istanbul for a few days of work – during an unusual March week of wet snow and pummeling winds – I wanted to tell you about the type of thing that should fill us all with a bit of hope. Turkey still faces huge challenges when it comes to gender Read More …

Hear the Sound of Freedom!

Three young Egyptians have produced a wonderful music video, “The Sound of Freedom” (Sout al Horeya). Here’s the video. But first, a partial translation from Al-Jazeera: I went down and I said I am not going back, and I wrote on every street wall that I am not going back. All barriers have been broken Read More …

Why Protests Keep Spreading

It has been captivating to watch the sudden and massive upheavals in Egypt sparked by the uprising in Tunisia and, in turn, speaking protest movements in Yemen, Jordan, Sudan and beyond. I do not wish to speculate on outcomes.  Perhaps countries will descend into bloodshed as those who desperately hope to preserve the status quo Read More …

The End of Men

A terrific new documentary by Marc de Guerre starts with the dramatic drop of full-time employment for men in the United States. Between December 2007 and March of 2010 the United States lost 8.2 million jobs. 80% of these jobs belonged to men. In 2008, the share of men in the United States with a Read More …

US Campus Men’s Conference

On campuses throughout North America, there are groups of male students who are speaking out against dating violence and in support of gender equality.  It’s not always an easy job.  For one thing, they up against a ton of fear.  Of what?  Fear among most guys of not being one of the guys. They also face a Read More …

New Approaches for Ending Sexual Harassment at Work

Canada’s leading paper, The Globe and Mail, has featured my “Red Light, Yellow Light, Green Light Program.” This is a new leadership program for managers to help them manage anti-harassment policy with confidence. This full-day, half-day, or two-day program goes beyond traditional training that focuses on straightforward lists of the “red light” behaviours of what Read More …

Manhood and War

The war and now the occupation of Iraq is indeed about oil and the arms industries; it is about a particularly nasty dictator; it is about who controls the Middle-east, and about the long-held political agenda of a small circle in the United States who happen to control the White House. All true, but it Read More …

Better Fathering Will Help End Violence

Many countries in the western world seemed to have rediscovered fatherhood. We see fathers in movies and on television, in advertisements and newspaper articles: men are cooing to babies, playing with their kids, spreading advice to the next generation, and getting in touch with their own dads. It might get a bit corny at times, Read More …

New Web Site With New Resources

I’m pleased to launch the new incarnation of my web site. My hope is to provide a better introduction to the range of services I offer and on-line resources, including articles you can download. The “work” section has pages on the talks and workshops I provide to different organizations, as well as information about my Read More …

The 7 P’s of Men’s Violence

For a moment my eyes turned away from the workshop participants and out through the windows of the small conference room and towards the Himalayas, north of Kathmandu. I was there, leading a workshop, largely the outgrowth of remarkable work of UNICEF and UNIFEM which, a year earlier, had brought together women and men from Read More …

Better Fathering Will Help End Violence

This article first appeared in Finnish in Pelastakaa Lapset in the summer of 1998 Many countries in the western world seemed to have rediscovered fatherhood. We see fathers in movies and on television, in advertisements and newspaper articles: men are cooing to babies, playing with their kids, spreading advice to the next generation, and getting Read More …